Free to love? The role of intrusive parenting for young adult children’s romantic relationship quality

Intrusive parenting is a form of boundary disturbance in the parent-child relationship which has been consistently associated with children’s maladjustment. The present study examines the role of intrusive parenting for young adult children’s romantic relationship quality. Relying on data from a two-wave longitudinal study among young couples in transition to marriage in Italy, we investigated the link between young adults’ perceived intrusive parenting and change in their romantic relationship quality from 6 months before marriage to 18 months after marriage as well as the mediating role of change in the capacity to include the partner in the self. Data were analyzed using actor-partner interdependence modeling. Perceived intrusive parenting negatively predicted change in inclusion of the other in the self and change in romantic relationship quality for both partners. For females change in their capacity of inclusion of the other in the self fully mediated the association between their perceived intrusive parenting and change in their own and partner’s relationship quality. Limitations and implications for practice are discussed.